*The Quarter Life Struggle Is Real: 4 Ways to Deal with Turning 25

how gorgeous is she? and that hair is magnificent!

**UPDATE:  I changed the title of this post because there’s nothing “crisis” about turning 25. As it has been instilled in me since I was a child, “God will never give you more than you can bear,” so keep your head high, don’t let anyone or anything get you down, and know that you greater than any obstacle that came come your way.

I think it’s starting to really hit me. 

The mood swings are becoming more frequent, I’ve grown to appreciate red wine and Netflix more than usual, and my eyes sweat just a little but when I hear one of my favorite 90’s songs come on the radio.

Exactly three months from today, I will become a quarter of a century.  And while that in and of itself is a blessing, I must say that I’m going through a little bit of an awkward moment as I approach this milestone. Don’t get me wrong — I love being a young adult. As I’ve stated before, it’s at this stage in my life where I find that I am the most honest with myself. Over the last few years, I’ve become more resilient, patient and self-aware — but there are still some things about me that I know I need to work on, and that’s where the anxiety comes. 

When you find that twenty-five is softly tapping on your door, it’s important to not be so hard on yourself as it makes your way in to get comfortable. The last 24 years have prepared us for this moment and everything that will come with it. But just in case you find yourself a little overwhelmed, check out these for things you can do to prepare:

1. Take time to reflect on how far you’ve come. There are so many things that you have had the opportunity to do in your short time on this earth thus far. Marvel in the fact that as a twenty-something, you have experienced and accomplished so much. Sure, you’ve hit a few bumps in the road and had a teachable moment or two, but who hasn’t? You can only become better by learning from your mistakes, so continue to build upon the past, live in this moment and know that the best is yet to come.

2. Accept yourself (flaws and all) and remain open to change. Yes, we all have those days when we’re train wrecks in the morning and b-words in the afternoon (thanks Beyoncé) — and that’s just life! But there comes a point in your life where you have to accept the person that you are, believe in that person wholeheartedly and wake up every morning ready to kick ass. However, we must also be open to evolving into selfless, humble and grateful human beings. For instance, I know that I’ve got a very colorful and animated personality — and it’s something that I’ve learned to embrace. But the older I get, the more I’m realizing that al situations don’t call for an over-the-top reaction. Learning to choose my battles wisely (and corresponding feelings) is an on-going lesson, and it will only continue to come with maturity and experience.

3. Pace yourself bro, and BREATHE! You’ve still got a long way to go. Every millennial has a variation of the following: to be married (with kids), have a house with a few whips, checking and savings accounts that agree with each other regularly and a bomb-dignity career with benefits and a sweet 401K plan. But in order to get all of those things, we have to strategically align ourselves for those things to happen. It’s no secret that we are the generation that loves instant-gratification, but some things take a little bit of time to come to fruition. Continue to work hard at becoming even more awesome than you were yesterday, be kind, show gratitude and I’m positive that all of those things will all fall into place.

4. Fasten your seat belt, and enjoy the ride. I’ve had some extremely fun times in my early twenties, and just because I’m getting older doesn’t mean the fun doesn’t has to stop. There will be Friday nights when I want to keep it cute and chill at the crib with some Jiffy Pop and Merlot — but never will I deny an opportunity to have a good time with friends and loved ones. Balance, in my opinion, is the key to a healthy life. Understanding that yes, there are obligations required of us and goals to accomplish, but we must hold ourselves accountable to make sure that our personal needs and desires are fulfilled, and happiness is ultimately achieved. Trials will come, winds will blow and tables are bound to get shook — but these things will make us stronger in the end.

So don’t fear, my dear twenty-something! Getting older has never been more fetch.

Twenty-five, bring it on baby.

Chasity

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