Don’t Let Comparison Steal Your Joy.

Happy Hump Day!

The idea of this week’s reflection actually came from a great group conversation that I had last night at a Capital Cause event, and it couldn’t be closer to the truth at this particular moment in my life. Nowadays with the constant connectivity we have to Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, it’s so easy to quickly become envious of the life that someone else is living. Whether it’s wealth, expensive things, experiences or recognition, it’s apart of our human nature to see something that someone else has and want it too. There have been countless times when I’ve become envious of my peers, and had to check myself quickly — because it’s quite possible that what they have may not be for me. Not only can comparing yourself others be toxic to our personal well-being, but it inevitably slows us down from reaching our goals and dreams because we’ve become fixated on what others are doing. I’m not saying that we all must have this very competitive spirit all the time, but do realize that you should be the only person that you’re looking to be better than day after day. Here are three reasons why I believe we should’t allow comparison to steal our joy:

1. Embrace collaboration. Each of us has unique talents and intelligence that when brought together, can be a force to be reckoned with. For example, you’re interested in starting your own nonprofit that helps inner city kids get into great colleges and universities. That’s great! But I’ll be honest with you — there are tons of organizations that are already working to achieve that goal, so maybe it’s possible for you to create a different approach. This is where you take a look at your resources, invest in quality relationships with others and brainstorm a way in which to reach your target audience in a more creative way. Teamwork makes the dream work, and sometimes that takes getting out of our own way to realize that we can’t accomplish certain things by ourselves.

2. Priorities may change, but hustle is constant. If you think about some of the greatest athletes, entertainers and change makers of our time, they all have hustled hard to get to where they wanted to be. And while it’s so easy to complain about not having enough time in the day, whlie you’re sleeping someone is probably working. This is also to say that time management is KEY, and that prioritization, drive and the ability to know when to give yourself a break are also very important. Someone once told me that the older you get, the more your priorities change. Right now at 24, my main priorities may be to work really hard to lay the groundwork of my career, build meaningful relationships and have all of the fun, those goals are certainly going to evolve by the time I’m 28. We must allow ourselves to be open to the process, and see change as a friend rather than an enemy.

3. What God has for you is FOR YOU. I can’t stress this one enough. We all experience seasons in our lives that challenge us to stretch, release and rebuild; and while those times may not be the most comfortable, they yield the most honesty and personal growth. Trials always come to make our faith stronger, so whenever you find yourself defeated or disappointed, remember that it won’t last long. I can remember when I was at what I believed to be a breaking point, but it was in fact a breakthrough. God will never give us more than we can bear, EVER. Continue to trust your struggle, work your faith and rest assured that there’s a plan already set in place that’s bigger than we can ever imagine.

Chasity

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